Saturday, November 11, 2006

How to Tell When You Are Tired

This is a title of book I read years ago. I forget the contents, but it was about men and their long work days. The hypothesis of the book: people are driven to work more, and as a result we are a nation of tired people.
I don’t know if we are more tired than previous generations. Some studies suggest we are getting less sleep than the past generation. My issue is with technology and 21st century luxuries we should be LESS tired not just as tired as our ancestors. The labor and time saving devices have NOT saved time. They have sped up life’s conveyor belt, like Lucy in the chocolate factory scene. Speed is bad for the health.

Studies (as well as common sense) tell us we are healthier, happier, and saner people when we get enough sleep – and time off. Yet there is less and less tolerance in the work field for this. People are made to feel guilty for missing work for illness or for psychological necessity (i.e. vacation). Then there is the grandiose lie that the world will stop spinning if we desert our work post. Bosses imply it; workers believe it.

When I moved to Arizona I replaced 2 doctors. Neither seemed to have been very good, but they both worked all the time, including major holidays. I get to work before 7AM, work until 5PM, and often have hours of paperwork as well as phone calls. So I am no slacker. Yet my assumption that we did NOT work on Memorial Day, 4th of July etc was met with disbelief.
So I am disrupting the culture here; I don’t expect to work on major holidays. I take the European approach that four weeks/year is minimal not maximum time off. Both are getting me dirty looks that I am ‘not working enough’ or a poor team player. (on the other hand the secretarial staff are thrilled that for the first time they don’t have to work on Memorial and Labor Days any more, as the doctor isn’t in).

I hope you all get enough sleep and get appropriate amounts of vacation and ‘down time’.
It is vital to your health. And don’t feel guilty for it.

23 Comments:

Blogger Unknown said...

I try to work smarter, not longer - doesn't always work but at least I try...

Hope you have a wonderful, well deserved restful weekend Spo... spend some quality time with Someone...

8:15 AM  
Blogger Jason said...

Is that what you look like when you get up in the morning? Bow Chicka BowWow!!

I think I may forward this post to my boss. Being a salaried employee, I'm expected to take one for the team and work a 50hr. work week with the occasional weekend business trip. After five years, it's gotten old and will see it's end soon enough. I'm all about having a less stressful life. I will get there :)

8:35 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Boy can I relate at the moment.I'm here on my first day of vacation (greetings from PS CA). I have a grant application that I'm supposed to review and email my edits in by Monday, and I'm supposed to do a phone interview of a candidate for an open position in another department early Tuesday morning. What happened to vacations being about leaving work behind?

Is Spo-Reflections becoming NSFW?

9:46 AM  
Blogger Michael Guy said...

Your post is sad commentary on the state of most work environments. Do more with less and stay later to do it. This year was the FIRST year that I used all 4-weeks of my vacation. I still have a week's worth of 'personal days.' I'm not coasting on my 17-year commitment to the company but it does get old when one is asked "...another vacation? I thought you just took one?!..." In the overview of my career I have logged in a gazillion hours of unpaid overtime and business travel on MY time. It's expected nowadays. And though I don't want to wish my life away, I'll surely relish the retirement years if indeed I last that long. Thoughtful post. And if I had that nummy nums cutie from your post pic maybe I'd have incentive to sleep in. Ha!

Hi DOUG: Have a cocktail for me at HUNTER's! :: HUGS ::

11:55 AM  
Blogger rodger said...

Funny, I'm reading this from the office today. I had to stop in for a couple hours to catch up after having taken a few days off this week.

I have however taken 3 of the past 6 weeks off so I can't complain. I also make sure to sleep until I wake up...no alarm clock for me.

12:24 PM  
Blogger Robert said...

Your post couldn't have come on a more appropriate time. I slept in today til 11 am after going to bed at 8 pm last night. YIKES! And yes, I do feel guilty. I could have been a productive member of society earlier today if I wasn't such a lazy ass by sleeping in late. I have an excuse though...my damn MS medication gave me flu symptoms through the night. So not only did I sleep well for those 15 hours, Brian didn't get much sleep either as I tend to be a big baby when I'm not feeling so good.

With that said, your post made my guilt wash away. Thank you. :)

12:50 PM  
Blogger Mo and The Purries said...

Great timing on this post.
I worked my booty off yesterday getting ready for next week's Holiday Open House -- up & down ladders, carrying boxes up & down stairs, eight hours of opening boxes & stocking shelves, carrying all the trash out to the dumpster, then coming home after an 11 hour day & trying to salvage a relationship -- you would think I would have slept well last night... Oh but No.
My brain was on overload worry-zone. I finally got up for an hour between 1am & 2am for milk/cookies and spider solitaire on the computer with my kittie. Then still tossed and turned -- needless to say, today I am a grumpy bitch.
Tonight, all I wanna do is sleep, sleep, sleep...

1:26 PM  
Blogger maggie said...

Your post puts me in mind of something I read awhile back.

MEN and THEIR long work days my ass!!!

HOW TO BE A GOOD WIFE
Home Economics High School Text Book, 1954


Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal, on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.

Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so that you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.

Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the home just before your husband arrives, gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.

Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.

Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad he is home.

Some don'ts: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.

Listen to him. You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.

Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.

The Goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

2:25 PM  
Blogger Lemuel said...

I'm with you on the European philosophy of work time and vacation, but I live in reality. Come January after 10 years(!) I will have a whopping 3 weeks!

Another thing I like about the European (German) style of life was quitting at 4, eating a leisurely evening meal, with dessert and coffee late into the evening.

3:34 PM  
Blogger Jack said...

I think Maggie needs to get with the times.

Yes it's true that when you get home you wanna a just "ouf" but then again, home is home, kids noise and all.

Maggie, get with the program. We're not in 1950 anymore.

People just need to be nice to each other. Everybody works to much, too fast...

The end!?

4:20 PM  
Blogger dmmgmfm said...

Thank you for the perfectly timed post. I was on the road for work all of last week and probably averaged about 2 hours of sleep per night. I am definitely ready for a nap. If my boyfriend asks why I'm going to bed at 6:30 pm, I'll tell him "Doctor's orders".

6:41 PM  
Blogger Maddog said...

Good for you for standing up for yourself. I'm sure you deserve all the time off that you get. Nice picture today. Is that you or Someone asleep?

10:35 PM  
Blogger Tony said...

I heart you Spo...we think the same when it comes to rest and relaxation. My only problem is I don't hold the position you do to dictate it. If I ever do get a business going I am going to do everything in my power once its up and running to adhere to someof what you already put out in this post. I so wish we worked like Europe. 4-6 weeks of vacation is just absolute heaven. Just to be able to spread it out over the year.

1:28 AM  
Blogger Will said...

This constant work mania is apparently nation-wide--people working longer to produce more so that fewer people have to be employed--and enjoying it less.

If I'm going to be tired, I SO want to look like that guy (or be with him?) while I do it!

7:24 AM  
Blogger maggie said...

Joel, I was being sarcastic.
I'm an extremely modern woman and expect everyone to do their equal share. :)

7:49 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Maggie.. have you ever seen Far From Heaven... your comment reminde me of that... btw.. i do that when Low comes home... as Miss Virgina Slims used to say... you've come a long way baby!

8:58 AM  
Blogger maggie said...

I did see that movie Foxy and I loved it. Julianne Moore is also one of my favorite actors.

11:14 AM  
Blogger steve'swhirlyworld said...

I'm with you on this one Michael. I soooooooooooooo enjoy my time away from work...so much so I'm planning the TGE - see recent postings. Life is too short to work yourself to death.

6:07 PM  
Blogger steve'swhirlyworld said...

Oh yeah...and is that a recent pic of you Michael? You're looking good.

6:10 PM  
Blogger Ur-spo said...

hohoho
no this is NOT me; don't I wish...

7:30 PM  
Blogger Bigg said...

How very right you are.

2:03 PM  
Blogger Bigg said...

I meant, how right you are about needing sleep -- I bet the picture IS of you...

2:03 PM  
Blogger Greg said...

I know exactly how it feels to be out sick and trying not to make myself sicker by stressing about work, but being away from the office helped me heal much faster. I would have been no use in the office, anyway, so why be there making others miserable? And it was so nice to fall asleep on the couch, with a book on my chest at 1 PM!!!

11:18 PM  

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